“It only takes one step to start feeling better.”

The inaugural well-being event, hosted by the Blackrock College Union in conjunction with the rugby and soccer clubs, brought together past students and attendees at the event that took place in Stradbrook for an evening of reflection, learning, and open conversation about mental health, emotional well-being, and the challenges faced by men in particular.

The discussion, led by Matt Sadlier, Carole Ann Clarke, and Brian Kingston, focused on how compassion, awareness, and practical support can make a significant difference in helping people navigate challenges like burnout, stress, and mental health struggles.

Matt Sadlier shared his perspective on helping loved ones, emphasising the importance of support without trying to control outcomes: “We can wish them the best, but they have to get it themselves. We can put something in front of them, but they have to take that step.” He described his own experience with family members struggling with addiction, noting that real change only comes when individuals seek help for themselves.

Carole Ann Clarke highlighted how small gestures can be transformational. Recalling a personal experience, she said: “One of my work colleagues said, ‘Caroline, I’m a bit concerned about you.’ That moment was like, Jesus, if somebody else has noticed me, there’s something wrong. Clearly, there’s something wrong.” Clarke emphasised that reaching out, even in a small way, can help people recognise when they might need support and take that first vital step toward professional help.

A recurring theme of the evening was the importance of noticing and acting on early warning signs. The panel discussed common challenges, particularly for men, such as burnout, ignoring symptoms, and avoiding conversations about mental health. Practical advice included checking in with friends or family, recognising changes in behaviour, and seeking medical support. Clarke noted: “Having a good GP is critical because they’ll monitor you and look over time. And they did.” She encouraged attendees to normalise mental health conversations and to create environments where people feel safe to reach out.

Brian Kingston, speaking from his experience in emergency mental health assessments, described balancing empathy and honesty: “Empathy is trying to understand what that person is thinking, not trying to feel what they are feeling. There is unconditional positive regard, I’m on your side. And then there is genuineness, the bit that’s often forgotten. That’s where the edge comes in.” Kingston emphasised that sometimes a firm but compassionate conversation can make someone consider seeking help.

The evening also explored practical steps that attendees could take immediately. Clarke shared, “If you know somebody is vulnerable, it’s also about checking in… sometimes that’s enough.” Other suggestions included visiting your GP, integrating reflection, mindfulness, or prayer into daily life, and maintaining regular weekly check-ins with friends, family, or colleagues.

The discussion addressed societal pressures, especially in male-dominated environments like sports and construction, where men often struggle to acknowledge stress or burnout. Sadlier reflected on his experiences with sports clubs, highlighting that inclusion, encouragement, and showing up for one another can make a profound difference. “Sometimes all it takes is a text, a call, or an invite for a cup of tea to show someone they’re not alone,” he said. Integrating well-being into existing structures, such as toolbox talks or sports programmes, was highlighted as a practical way to normalise these conversations and encourage individuals to seek help early.

Spirituality and reflection were emphasised as important pillars of well-being. Attendees were reminded that connection to something greater, whether through faith, meditation, or mindfulness, can provide a grounding and meaningful framework for navigating life’s challenges. “Reflection, mindfulness, and taking notice of the beauty around you… for some people, prayer works. For others, it’s finding meaning or purpose in life,” said Sadlier.

The panel stressed that no one has to face these challenges alone, and that normalising help-seeking behaviour is key. Attendees left with practical tools, from recognising burnout to creating safe spaces for conversation, and most importantly, the understanding that taking the first step can be life-changing.

Take the First Step – Practical Actions for Well-being

Notice the Signs

• Feeling constantly tired, stressed, or burned out
• Loss of interest in things you normally enjoy
• Changes in sleep, appetite, or mood
• Avoiding social interactions

Reach Out

• Call or message a trusted friend or family member
• Check in with someone who seems withdrawn or stressed
• Start small – a conversation can be the first step

Seek Professional Support

• Book an appointment with your GP
• Explore counselling, therapy, or mental health services
• Don’t wait until things feel unbearable – early support works

Create Safe Spaces

• Encourage open conversations in sports teams, workplaces, or social groups
• Listen without judgment, showing empathy and understanding

Reflect and Ground Yourself

• Take time for mindfulness, meditation, or prayer
• Connect with what gives your life meaning or purpose

Remember

• Healing begins with one step
• You are not alone – support is available
• Encouraging someone else to seek help can save lives

“It only takes one step to start your journey to healing.”

The Union extended thanks to Matt Sadlier, Carole Ann Clarke, and Brian Kingston for sharing their experience, insights, and guidance, helping to set the stage for future events dedicated to promoting mental health, resilience, and community care. Thanks were also extended to the Rugby and Soccer clubs for their collaboration in making this event a success.